Monday, January 31, 2011

20 Ways for Young Men to Become REAL Men

Here is the list that I referenced in my last blog. Later this week I will post some ideas that the guys share at Bible study, this week we'll be going over #'s 10-20. I got the list from a teacher in New York, she is using the list at an all boy's school challenging them to be REAL Men. A REAL Man today may not look how it should, meaning that the culture tells us one thing when people of any morality know that being a real man is far from what the culture makes it out to be. Unfortunately, Christians are often the only ones defending or standing up for what true Manhood is.

And I wanted to post a picture of Real Men and like a real man I resorted to a search of "real men" and "be a real man" on google image search. Not only was I disappointed but pretty much disgusted, which goes to prove the point above of how poorly our culture portrays manhood. So here's a picture of a REAL Man above.

20 Ways for Young Men to Become REAL Men
1.Read the Bible—be open to God’s Word.
2.Find saints that you relate to and ask them to pray for you as you imitate their virtues.
3.Keep your standards high; only date women who have the qualities you want in a future wife and mother of your children.
4.Tell appropriate jokes, not the kind that would make a pure woman blush—or be offended!
5.Respect women, even those who don’t respect themselves and may throw themselves at you.
6.Be a man of integrity.
7.Be both strong and gentle. St. Francis de Sales said that “there is nothing so strong as gentleness and nothing so gentle as real strength.”
8.Say a prayer when you see a woman dressed immodestly (for the sake of the woman).
9.Say a prayer when you see a woman dressed immodestly (for your purity’s sake).
10.Honor your mother and sisters.
11.Find creative ways to express your (pure & chaste) feelings to the woman you like or are dating.
12.Find good male role models to emulate; get relationship advice from Godly men.
13.Be open to the priesthood.
14.Show gentlemanly respect to all women, not just the woman you’re dating.
15.Trust in God’s mercy. When you fall, go to confession. Receive strength from Christ truly present in the Eucharist.

Blessed Pier Giorgio Frassati said, “With all the strength of my soul I urge you young people to approach the Communion table as often as you can. Feed on this bread of angels whence you will draw all the energy you need to fight inner battles. Because true happiness, dear friends, does not consist in the pleasures of the world or in earthly things, but in peace of conscience, which we have only if we are pure in heart and mind.”

16.Don’t settle for counterfeits such as pornography or masturbation (in fact, avoid them like the plagues they are) if you want to someday enjoy the utterly amazing gift of sex as God intended.
17.Guard your senses from temptation, and be always ready to choose God’s way, no matter what the cost.
18.Recognize Mary as your Mother and say a prayer to consecrate your heart to her.
19.Lay down your life in the little things; practice making small sacrifices by putting someone else’s wants or needs before your own.
20.Make Jesus Christ your best friend and greatest role model.

J.R.R. Tolkien, in a letter to his son, wrote, “Out of the darkness of my life, so much frustrated, I put before you the one great thing to love on earth: the Blessed Sacrament…There you will find romance, glory, honor, fidelity, and the true way of all your loves upon earth…which every man’s heart desires.”

Saturday, January 29, 2011

Great Week

This last week, my second back in New Jersey this semester was great!

The week began on Friday the 21st and my 5 teammates, Fr. Gomes and I were taking a group of 45 students to Baltimore for a FOCUS National Conference. Everyone had a blast at Conference which was about 2 days. We listened to some great speakers and were all challenged to deepen our relationship with Jesus Christ. We were challenged to do this in several ways but one of the best ways that was suggested to us was through the Sacraments of the Catholic Church. On Saturday night 2 young women that are from Seton Hall went to confession for the first time in 9 years!! At Conference I had to work the Varsity Catholic information booth and even got to speak with my teammate Melissa about Varsity Catholic to an audience of over 50 people. Conference was also a great chance to catch up with missionaries serving at other schools that I have not seen since this summer and some that I had never even met.

Once Conference ended on Sunday afternoon my roommate Anthony and I stuck around at the hotel to watch the NFC Championship game. The result of the game was especially enjoyable and even more so since we watched most of it with 2 Bears fans.

From Baltimore we went to Washington D.C. on Monday for the March for Life. Last year I went to a local version of the march in St. Paul where I walked with a group from St. Paul's Cathedral to the steps of the state capitol. This year was a little different. This year I marched with over hundreds of thousands of people!! It was beautiful to see so many people united for the same cause, to end legalized abortion. People from across the country made the trip to DC to stand up for all to have the right to life. I was especially impressed by a group that I saw from Green Bay, WI. At the end of the march several of the FOCUS missionaries that were there gathered for a picture, there were about 40 of us. The rest of the day was spent with missionaries out for dinner and the night ended with the Seton Hall team of missionaries in Alexandria, VA. We stayed with Rosabel's (missionary) family.

Tuesday we made the trip back to campus and the rest of the week was pretty irregular. Wednesday I had my 2nd Bible study of the semester, 11 guys made it and we talked about chastity and purity. The guys really enjoyed it and had a lot to share. I'll post what I used to lead the discussion in a later post. Wednesday the school was closed because of the weather and the amount of snow that we were supposed to receive. Well it snowed so much that school was closed for all of Thursday. On a whim we (missionaries) invited over students to hang out and eat. Typically we host a Grilled Cheese Party each Thursday night so for this Thursday we extended that to all day and even threw in some tomato soup. In all probably around 30 students stopped by, it was a long day, but a fun day, what snow day isn't a great day after all?

Today, Saturday has been action packed as well. Melissa and I joined the women's basketball team for their pregame devotion. I watched the first half and then stopped by the swim meet for awhile. Then I got home just in time to welcome some guests. Some guys from the baseball team came over for some pizza and video games. This is their last weekend that they're not in season, so I wanted to get together with them. We had pizza and played some NFL Blitz and NHL Hitz and watched some golf and basketball on TV.

I also made a big decision this week, to go home to watch the Super Bowl with my family, which will probably be the next best place to be besides Dallas next Sunday.

It's weeks like these that really make me thankful for where the Lord has put me and thankful for the work that He is allowing me to do, I love my job!